My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.
No. That doesn’t make you a bad person. Frankly, I think it’s awful that she’s asking you to, but I imagine she’s going through some things herself at the moment.
I think you have the right take here already- your relationship with your dad wasn’t the one impacted.