doi: 10.1037//0021-843x.105.3.440

  • @arrow74@lemmy.zip
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    142 days ago

    I think a lot of these men are bisexual but heteroromantic, thus why suppressing their sexual desires are easier.

    • @TommySoda@lemmy.world
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      118 hours ago

      The amount of “straight but curious” guys I’ve found out in the world is a little too high for that to be the case.

      • @arrow74@lemmy.zip
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        218 hours ago

        It’s just them not accepting their sexuality fully. Like you can be bi and married to the opposite gender and be just fine.

        I think it’s the denial that causes the issues

        • @TommySoda@lemmy.world
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          17 hours ago

          And that’s how I used to be back in the day and that shit destroys your mental health. And when you do “slip” it’s always worse and more exaggerated because of the repressed feelings. I would think that there was something wrong with me and I hated that part of me. I wished that I was completely straight and would internally shame myself whenever I had “gay thoughts” because I thought it made me less of a man. But at the end of the day, nobody cares about how manly you are except for people that want to feel like they are better than you or people that want something from you.

    • @PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca
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      172 days ago

      Just go on Grindr and you’ll be proven right. I’m in a tiny blue collar town. One that does burnouts on the rainbow crosswalk. 3/4 of everyone on Grindr are “DL bicurious guy” or “straight but like dicks”.