No way, really?

I have a 40 hour work week. And two more jobs than are ten hours work per week. And I need to do these, or I don’t have health insurance and can’t afford my rent.

God damnit I read this in his dumb voice

If only

Yeah, I think that’s the right interpretation. Thanks for the recommendation, I’ll look it up!

My wife came to realize she needed to date women. That, and she had very bad anxiety that she began to refuse to treat. She had multiple screaming and crying breakdowns over simple social situations with my family. She couldn’t leave the house for months. I was working two jobs, taking care of our animals, and doing all the housework. She would lay on the couch and doomscroll all day.

I spent 40 hours on the phone with Kaiser Permanente trying to get her a therapist. When we finally did get her a therapist, the therapist told her that she was autistic, that the anxiety she experienced was just who she was, and that other people should just accept it.

We were going to couples counseling, too, and I said in one session that her anxiety was something she needed to work on with the goal of ultimately fixing it, because it was maladaptive and making both our lives really hard. The therapist cautiously agreed with me. Afterwards, she demanded to fire the therapist and moved out of the house. She stayed with my aunt and uncle for a month. I think she would have continued to drag it out, for a year or more, but I had no faith in the relationship anymore. When she sent me an email reiterating the same unactionable, generic criticisms she had always raised in couples counseling, I told her we should just get divorced.

The actual divorce was amicable. We had no kids and few possessions. I bought her out of most of it and we split the rest. No lawyer needed. She moved into a house with a group of lesbians and started over.

I struggled with feelings of failure and inadequacy for a few years after that: why couldn’t I help her? Why couldn’t I make her happy? It’s taken a decent amount of therapy, but I have come to understand that sometimes things end without a conclusive reason, and we don’t have full control over the outcome of our lives. I could have done everything right, and it still would have ended.

There were many good years prior to things unraveling. A blooming flower is no less pretty because it will wilt.

I don’t eat either of them

Escapes are pretty bad cars. My ex had one with just over 100k miles, engine cracked and started leaking coolant into one of the cylinders. Totaled the car with no accident.

I wonder if this is the app, or the age group? As a late 30s guy on Hinge, I don’t have a ton of trouble finding at least a few people to have a decent chat with every week, and it’s led to a decent number of dates and even a few long term relationships.

Muffins are cake. I don’t eat cake except on special occasions. I think this is a pretty good rule.

Even cats will fuck you up if they really intend to.

Sorry to tell you but I’m a millennial in law school right now and all my classmates are zoomers. 😬

I guess this is supposed to be funny but it reads as sad and abusive to me.

I’m in law school right now. AI is pretty helpful for researching briefs. You can ask it super specific legal questions and get answers with citations. But what you can’t do is just copy and paste shit and not check the citations to make sure they’re real.

The idea that they’d use AI to write the test questions and not independent verify them is ridiculous.

These motherfuckers are trying to take away our mail in voting system on the West Coast. If I have to stand in fucking line to vote again for no reason I’m gonna be pissed.

No. Children should be taught about all the major religions and allowed to decide for themselves.

We always dyed real eggs and hunted a mix of the real eggs and the plastic ones with candy in them.

I mean, “Super Troopers” is right there for you to use

Thanks bro, had read it in Plato but was on a real King Gizzard and the Lizard Wizard kick when I signed up for Lemmy (still am).

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