If it’s dating sites, that’s just how online dating is. You gotta slog through until you actually find someone, and it can take forever.
But if it’s actually 200 times in person without a single success, you’re doing something wrong. Maybe it’s how you ask, your attitude when asking, or maybe it’s your personality in general, but there’s one common denominator here.
“I’ve done everything right and no one will date me,” sounds dangerously close to incel logic. If you’re not sure what it is that is turning people away, maybe therapy can help.
But also …dude did you read what I typed? I said ots OK if nobody wants to date me . There have been millions of humans born before me who were just like me(and honestly there wil probably be millions more born after me) . Humans who worked out , got their mental health as well as one xan get it to be alone and put tjemselves out there…and…STILL didnt meet anyone who reciprocated their love. Thats perfectly OK. Thats just life. It is what it is🤷🏿♂️🫂 If someone cant accept that? They ought not be dating.
How am I anywhwre close to an incel? lool That term has been tarnished far and away from the lady that first invented it. its sad to be honest cause the term could have been used to describe those who are always feeling ‘lwft out’ from friendships, relationships, and physical love…
Aoso incels tend to believe that ‘tHeRe’s OnLy tWo GemDeRs’ lie and I believe in the Mosaic Model Of Gender so there could be unlimited genders and anyone of any gender can date anyone of any other gender as long as theyre consenting adults. And also incels tend to beleive that males are a ‘sUpEriOr GeNdeR’ (We obviously arent based on the state of the genocidal patriarchal world today) I will never beleive that. All genders deserve equality and equity
Also ive been to therapy for 3 years after I turned 23. It barely helped . My therapist told me about cognitive distorrtions which helped me get my. head right when I gave myself too mant ultimatums. SHe also told me about ‘Self-Touch Meditation’ for my touch starvation…its meh . It will DEFINIRELY not solve a person’s problems related to f touch starvation. I realise that what I probably need now is a relief from my touch starvation and friends I can connect with and ‘cry on their shoulders’ whem im going through something. They can cry on my shoulders too. I will console them and hug them when they need me. Im tjinking about getting a pet or something soft I can cuddle like a BIG teddy bear …
Were these IRL, or on dating sites?
If it’s dating sites, that’s just how online dating is. You gotta slog through until you actually find someone, and it can take forever.
But if it’s actually 200 times in person without a single success, you’re doing something wrong. Maybe it’s how you ask, your attitude when asking, or maybe it’s your personality in general, but there’s one common denominator here.
“I’ve done everything right and no one will date me,” sounds dangerously close to incel logic. If you’re not sure what it is that is turning people away, maybe therapy can help.
like 90% of the rejections were IRL
But also …dude did you read what I typed? I said ots OK if nobody wants to date me . There have been millions of humans born before me who were just like me(and honestly there wil probably be millions more born after me) . Humans who worked out , got their mental health as well as one xan get it to be alone and put tjemselves out there…and…STILL didnt meet anyone who reciprocated their love. Thats perfectly OK. Thats just life. It is what it is🤷🏿♂️🫂 If someone cant accept that? They ought not be dating.
How am I anywhwre close to an incel? lool That term has been tarnished far and away from the lady that first invented it. its sad to be honest cause the term could have been used to describe those who are always feeling ‘lwft out’ from friendships, relationships, and physical love…
Aoso incels tend to believe that ‘tHeRe’s OnLy tWo GemDeRs’ lie and I believe in the Mosaic Model Of Gender so there could be unlimited genders and anyone of any gender can date anyone of any other gender as long as theyre consenting adults. And also incels tend to beleive that males are a ‘sUpEriOr GeNdeR’ (We obviously arent based on the state of the genocidal patriarchal world today) I will never beleive that. All genders deserve equality and equity
Also ive been to therapy for 3 years after I turned 23. It barely helped . My therapist told me about cognitive distorrtions which helped me get my. head right when I gave myself too mant ultimatums. SHe also told me about ‘Self-Touch Meditation’ for my touch starvation…its meh . It will DEFINIRELY not solve a person’s problems related to f touch starvation. I realise that what I probably need now is a relief from my touch starvation and friends I can connect with and ‘cry on their shoulders’ whem im going through something. They can cry on my shoulders too. I will console them and hug them when they need me. Im tjinking about getting a pet or something soft I can cuddle like a BIG teddy bear …
I will have to see what solutions I find 🤷🏿♂️