Please don’t. I really hate the “the anti-gay crowd is secretly gay”-narrative, because it carries connotations of “the gays” being responsible for their own oppression.
It’s not so much a “narrative” as a well studied phenomenon among all oppressed groups.
There are individuals in all oppressed groups who, for complicated reasons, enable the cycle of oppression by policing peers, enforcing harmful norms, and seeking proximity to power at their own group’s expense.
(I’m making an observation and not a moral judgement)
See: internalized oppression, horizontal hostility, identification with the aggressor(s)
Please don’t. I really hate the “the anti-gay crowd is secretly gay”-narrative, because it carries connotations of “the gays” being responsible for their own oppression.
It’s not so much a “narrative” as a well studied phenomenon among all oppressed groups.
There are individuals in all oppressed groups who, for complicated reasons, enable the cycle of oppression by policing peers, enforcing harmful norms, and seeking proximity to power at their own group’s expense. (I’m making an observation and not a moral judgement)
See: internalized oppression, horizontal hostility, identification with the aggressor(s)
Fair
I’m just saying the dude wears a surprising amount of eyeliner.
I don’t know, is an attraction to upholtered furbiture queer or a kink?
Because thats not exactly a secret, we just have to figure out what category it’s in.
It’s a kink, maybe a fetish, not exactly straight that’s for sure.
If it’s a kink then hes straight. If its queer then hes not.
Heh, you know, “kink” as in a “bend”, a “kink”, a “wrinkle” in ones sexuality. So it’s not straight with a kink in it ;)