Ok, as a man, I can see that these are two different hairstyles. Visually, it’s obviously the same person but with slightly different configurations of hair. Where I’m lost is that this meme seems to imply that one is better than the other. Which is the superior look? I don’t know. That doesn’t mean I cannot differentiate between the two, it means I am out of touch with whatever is stylish at the moment. There’s nothing objectively more or less beautiful in these photos. Maybe one style is easier to maintain, and the difference is supposed to sugest that one of them takes better care of their hair? Or maybe they are too fussy and vain to a fault? This is specialized knowledge that can only be shared via communication. You cannot discover it on your own like some scientific truth. You must learn it from someone else who knows.
The people who are snarky about people not knowing something like this are the worst sort of snobs. Not only are they mocking people who haven’t been included in the secret, they are wasting an opportunity to share knowledge to do it.
My read of the meme was that the similarity is the point. “You vs the girl he cheats with”, if one was significantly more attractive than the other would probably imply that it’s the woman’s fault for not being more attractive. But by showing them both basically the same, the message is “if he’s a cheater, he’s gonna cheat, no matter what you do. It’s on him.”
But maybe I’m putting too much thought into it.
That’s an interesting take. So basically a cheater isn’t being drawn into anything because of a specific desirable trait that you lack, it’s just that he’s a piece of shit who wants to cheat.
Yeah… But brain rot will have you believe if they cheat, you need to attack the person they cheated on you with.
Yes the point is that they’re similar, but with the added layer that you’re supposed to prefer the left because it looks more natural whereas the right looks like they tried too hard to achieve the same look and failed.
Hah, this guy doesn’t get it
The only people paying attention to nuanced differences in women’s hairstyles are other women. Most men wouldn’t notice a minor difference like this lol. I’ve joked about this with my wife before. Only other women pay attention to women’s outfits and hair. Men don’t notice or care. We’re interested in other things lol.
My wife gets mad at me when she asks my opinion between different shoes. “Which ones are more comfortable?” They both look great, but we’re going to be standing and walking a lot.
Haha yea. Same. She’ll show me 2 pairs of shoes that look almost exactly the same and demand that I choose haha. But to be fair, there are plenty of things I show her that she doesn’t give a shit about. So at least it’s equal on that front :-P.
Could be internalised patriarchy. Sometimes, when women ask a mans opinion on a few options, they’re not actually interested in the man’s opinion. They want to hear their own opinion, just said in a mans voice.
Only woman care about woman’s styles and only men compliment men at the gym.
It’s a crule world
It’s a similar story with cars, unless you’re driving an exotic of some type, only other car people care.
It’s like that study that showed that the size of men’s pecs are of interest to other men, women don’t really look at them as indicators of attractiveness
#notallwomen sweeping generalisation etc etc
We’re interested in other things.
Like tits.
Let other people enjoy their preferences. Some people get very particular about console/IDE fonts, keyboard switches, T-shirt fabric blends, fork shape, guitar string material, etc. Others like fashion and style. Some like architecture and interior design. Let people enjoy things, and get deep in the weeds on minute differences if they want to.
My interpretation was that people are just paranoid and that nobody is cheating since I would agree that it’s almost certainly the same person.
I am a biological woman. I identify as such. I don’t know what the same person plus 30+ minutes with a curling iron has to do with cheating. Effort? Vanity? This is far, far beyond me somehow. I am also very old so there’s that.
I think you helped me crack it, i think it’s saying that the person who looks like you but puts in more effort to their appearance on the regular is more attractive. That makes sense to me, and would be true in the main for most people, it’s one of the most common things said to people who are struggling to find partners.
You could take negative connotations from that about that person being vain but really it should be on the cheater for being a fucking cheater.
puts in more effort to their appearance on the regular
Nah. My wife has naturally wavy hair. She goes to work with it blow-dried, flattened, and a little plain-looking. On weekends she does none of those things, and it looks gorgeous and wavy and bouncy. Maybe I just have a definite preference – Even Jen Psaki on the TV - gorgeous already - looks better in her other, more natural style, and she’s probably got advisors telling her to vamp it up.
I think partly this is because flattening the hair at home is difficult and you don’t get great results. I actually put some effort into my natural hair (gel, scrunch, diffuse dry) to get it to look good curly, and the only other way it looks really good is professional blowout to bouncy straight not swingy straight.
Or maybe it’s because wavy hair rocks! I do think curly and wavy, kinky, any hair with texture is livelier than the smooth and straight hair. Like, curly hair is individual and straight hair is standardized.
I wish my curly hair was uniform enough to be individualized. Different parts of my head stand in disagreement
That is so normal. Come visit !curlyhair@lemmy.world
I have curly at at the crown, wavy at the sides, near straight at the nape. It all looks like loose curls if I style it.
Still would take this over straight hair any day.
I agree with you, but don’t like that the interpretation puts the onus on the person being cheated on. Like, people will cheat even if they’re with the most gorgeous, totally out of their league person. Cheating has nothing to do with how attractive or how attentive to themselves your partner is. If you’re a cheater, you’re gonna be a cheater.
I actually think what you said is the real point of the image. To me they are saying that they will cheat with a girl that looks just like you, because that’s how guys be.
I am a biological woman. I identify as such.
Do you mean a cis woman?
Or are you trying to separate yourself from robot women?
I wanna be a robot woman
That’s good enough for me. Congrats!
I assume she meant exactly what she said.
So… an organic woman
oh, no, a lot of pesticides are involved
Good take. Jokes aside, to me it only sounded like a terf or an ignorant. All women are women. Plus, the detail didn’t add to what they said in the next sentences…
Probably personality?
.the actual answer is that the curls are brushed which is essentially a minor thing that make some people feel like they’re better than others, hence why the unbrushed version is the version that the guy would cheat on (worse) and the main girl is “better”
the different ideas in the comments are KILLING me though. I think the ‘tight curls = tight grip on dick’ theory is the funniest one
I’m pretty sure the actual answer is that they’re virtually the same hairstyle. Cheaters gonna cheat.
I got the idea that the woman on the left took a little more care in her personal appearance and the one on the right was a little more trashy, which made this song pop in my head.
I suspect the hidden meaning is that guys apparently cheat on people who are fundamentally no different to the person they’re cheating on.
The implication being that guys cheat for the sake of it, rather than because there’s a difference in the person they’re with.
For clarity, I’m not saying I believe any of that. I think it sounds like utter nonsense. No doubt it’s true for some people, but I think applying it to a wider group isn’t very reasonable.
Well, people do tend to have a type, right?
I’m sure someone mentioned that girls with one hairstyle is trashy or something. You know like “those type of people”. Whatever the other women look down on.
Trashy women going to cheat.
At least thats how it has been explained to me. I’m jot even American so I dont know
What in the Victorian over complicated aristocracy social rules is this bullshit?
I feel like it doesn’t mean anything, it’s just trolling.
Then the troll is a shitty human.
I thought it just meant the person they cheat with is very similar so the cheating is even stupider
No clue.
But it looks better on the left imo.My guess: Guys don’t give a fuck about who looks better. They will cheat on you with anyone, even if there is no perceivable difference between you and who they are cheating with. The point of cheating is to cheat.
Poontang is poontang
I won’t even pretend I know where to begin. Same girl, different hairstyle, that’s all I can gather, no clue on possible hidden meanings
Maybe she is the type that when he cheats she claims to be strong while immediately changing her appearance & posting nonstop pictures on social media of all the “fun” she is having without him while making sure to tag him in every one.
I wouldn’t even register these as different hair styles.
I’m a woman and I don’t understand this My immediate thought is something about the tighter curls on the right implying she has a tighter grip on his dick
Maybe it’s boys cheat with women similar to their actual girlfriend?
That actually sounds logical.
I think it’s the tightness of the curls
Or natural vs fake?
It’s the same person at different stages of styling. They’re both the same level of artificial/natural, however you measure that.
To clarify: the right is the curls you create with heat, the left is after you carefully brush them out a bit so they appear more natural. So it’s a before (well, mid way) and after, left to right. Most people prefer the natural looking styling.
I saw this a while ago on reddit, and the explanation in the comments was something about brushing the curls out for a more “natural” look, with the one on the right being worse for not doing it.
I dunno anything about styling longer hair, but I’m going to guess that the tighter curls on the right look less messy. But it does seem like a pretty toxic attitude displayed.
I’m betting that in the image on the right she’s wearing hair extensions.
There does seem to be a lot of hushed discussion about hair extensions.
My take on this is that Jaz k is gaslighting all of us.
